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Author Dwayne Melancon is always on the lookout for new things to learn. An ecclectic collection of postings on personal productivity, travel, good books, gadgets, leadership & management, and many other things.

 

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Ever have one of those days when it feels like the world is pushing you around?  Where you feel like you did a whole bunch of stuff, but you really didn't do anything on your own list?

I almost had one of those today.  What saved me was that I put a couple of things on my "must do" list this morning, and I made sure they got done before going to bed.  Nothing earth-shattering, but they were things on my hot list for the week, which I decided I would get done today.

It's all mental - just pick something every day that you'll do for you.  Every step forward is a step closer to your goals.

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Recharging your batteries

Lisa's got a cool post on Management Craft (it even has a picture of a fancy drill).  She asks the question "How Big Are Your Batteries?" - and it's gotten me thinking.

I'm a classic, hard-core "introvert" in Meyers-Briggs type indicator parlance (an INTJ, if it do ya).  If you're familiar with their definition of Introverted, it has more to do with how you process information than with how outgoing your personality seems to others. For me, it means that I need time to process information, and when you couple my Introversion with the other aspects of my type (iNtuitive, Thinking, and Judging) it means I like to get lots of data in, then I use my intuitive bias to see patterns, make connections, and form hard conclusions.

Lisa's post sparked one of those "connections" for me, as I realized that it's important for me as an introvert is to deliberately build time into my schedule to recharge my batteries.  You see, Introverts find lots of social stimulation to be a bit draining at times, and need some down time to process the information they've accumulated - this process is where we become energized.

So, while I think it's important to know what size battery you have, I think it's even more important to know what to do to make sure you get a full charge now and then.

For me, it's typically activities that allow me to gather new information without feeling the pressure to process it immediately.  That means things like reading, watching the Discovery channel (or the History channel or somthing like that), reading blogs, listening to talk radio and audio books, and that sort of thing.  It often involves quiet time alone.

If you're an extrovert, your recharge might look different - it may involve some social interaction, talking with someone into the wee hours, having a good debate, or just going to a party and socializing.

In any case, build in some time to recharge your batteries - it's no fun having them run down when you really need them.

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No your enemy

Ran across an article on To-Done today that provides some helpful tips on how to say "No" when you need to.  At first glance, this seems kind of like the anti-matter version of the book  "Getting To Yes," but it's actually very complementary.

The core of this is taking responsibility for your commitments - before you make them.  I'm sometimes guilty of taking on too much, of saying "Yes" a bit too quickly, and of avoiding "No" just to keep the peace.  I usually realize it soon after I've dug my hole a little deeper, and then recovery can be a pain.

The list of ideas provided is great - now, if I can just get them to be more of a habit...

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Will you know it when you see it?

Yesterday, I wrote about the importance of protecting yourself from the sun so you don't get skin cancer, and the importance of spotting it early.

Today, I want to share some further tips for preventing skin cancer, and give you information about how to identify it so you'll know it when you see it.

Prevention

The best way to lower the risk of melanoma (or any other form of skin cancer) is to avoid too much exposure to the sun and other sources of UV light.

  • Avoid being outdoors in sunlight too long, especially in the middle of the day when UV light is most intense.

  • Protect your skin with clothing, including a shirt with long sleeves and a hat with a broad brim.

  • Use sunscreen and lip balm. They should have an SPF factor of 15 or more (I recommend SPF 30 or better). Apply the sunscreen correctly. Many people do not use enough--a palmful is best. Put it on about 20 to 30 minutes before you go outside so your skin can absorb it. And you should put it on again every two hours. Use it even on hazy days or days with light or broken cloud cover. Don't stay out in the sun longer just because you're using sunscreen as that defeats the purpose.

  • Wear sunglasses. Wrap-around sunglasses with 99%-100% UV absorption give the best protection.

  • Avoid other sources of UV light such as tanning beds and sun lamps.

  • Be especially careful about sun protection for children. Teach your children to protect themselves from the sun as they get older. People who suffer severe, blistering sunburns, particularly in childhood or teenage years, are at increased risk of melanoma.

You should also keep an eye on any moles you have, since skin cancer often begins with a 'normal looking' mole. Statistically speaking, men are more likely to develop skin cancer on their back or torso, while women are more likely to get it on their legs.

While we know where men and women are more likely to get skin cancer, it's important to note that you can get skin cancer anywhere on your body, even places that you've never had a sunburn. Since your skin is really a single organ, a sunburn on one part of your body can cause cancer to develop on another part of your body.

Check suspicious moles with your doctor and have them removed if needed.

What does "suspicious" mean?

Spots on the skin that change in size, shape, or color should be seen by a doctor right away. Any unusual sore, lump, blemish, marking, or change in the way an area of the skin looks or feels may be a sign of skin cancer.

A normal mole is most often an evenly colored brown, tan, or black spot on the skin. It can be either flat or raised. It can be round or oval. Moles are usually less than 1/4 inch in diameter, or about the width of a pencil eraser. Moles can be present at birth or they can appear later. Several moles can appear at the same time.

Once a mole has developed, it will usually stay the same size, shape, and color for many years. Most people have moles, and almost all moles are harmless.

Sometimes, Change Is Not Good

It is important to recognize changes in a mole-- such as its size, shape, or color-- that suggest a melanoma may be developing. You should see your doctor if you have a mole or growth that worries you. Your doctor may have you see a dermatologist, a doctor who specializes in skin problems. There are methods that help doctors tell the difference between a harmless growth and one that might be cancer. Using these methods could mean that a biopsy is not needed.

Know Your ABCD's

The ABCD rule can help tell a normal mole from a melanoma:

A asymmetry-- one half of the mole does not match the other half.
B border irregularity--the edges of the mole are ragged or notched.
C color--the color of the mole is not the same all over. There may be shades of tan, brown, or black, and sometimes patches of red, blue, or white.
D diameter --the mole is wider than about 1/4 inch (although doctors are now finding more melanomas that are smaller).

Some melanomas do not fit the descriptions above, and it may be hard to tell if the mole is normal or not, so you should show your doctor anything that you are unsure of.

I repeat: When in doubt, have it checked by a doctor or dermatologist. It took my doctor all of 2 seconds to know that my mole was trouble.

And, once again, check out the American Cancer Society's site for the full scoop.

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[Updated] Breakthrough performance

For the past two weeks, I've been participating in Lisa Haneberg's "2 Weeks 2 A Breakthrough " (2w2aB) program. Lisa, who I discovered through her Management Craft blog, is also the author of "H.I.M.M. - High Impact Middle Management" which is a tremendous resource for managers at all levels.

Anyway, I was part of the 2w2aB program, which involved picking a specific goal and being willing to accept coaching and suggestions from Lisa every day for 14 days.  It also involved a personal commitment to spend about an hour per day working on specific types of activities to advance toward your stated goal.

This was one of those "hurts so good" kinds of activities for me.  My goal was to really kickstart a new project which resulted from me taking on some new responsibilities at work.  This new project required me to do a lot of networking, discovery, and evangelism and really pushed me out of my comfort zone in a lot of ways (I don't yearn to do cold calls, I assure you).

Lisa's approach was very effective at forcing me to approach my work in a more reasoned, discipline-driven way.  It also encouraged me to enlist others in my goal and established a daily discipline routine that I think will help me beyond Day 14 of the program.

I would like to take this opportunity to thank Lisa for giving me the chance to participate in the Pilot of this program, and I look forward to what she puts in place as a result of this (she is running 4 pilot teams through the process, in an effort to improve her methodology).

My main take-aways from this process:

  • I reaffirmed the importance of specific, written goals
  • I realized the power of small, persistent actions toward a goal
  • I discovered the effectiveness of asking / allowing someone else to poke me on a daily basis to keep me focused on my goal
  • I found I could make far more progress in two weeks than I'd ever have thought possible
  • I confirmed that discipline is not just a choice - it's a bunch of choices and opportunities - if you missed one opportunity, get right back on track by siezing the next

This process reminded me of something a friend of mine once told me: "If you figure out what you really want, and ask for it, you just might get it."

The breakthroughs are ours for the taking. Thanks, Lisa.


Update June 15, 2005:

Last night, I got to the end of Lisa's book, H.I.M.M. - High Impact Middle Management, and there is some great information toward the end of the book about how to achieve performance breakthroughs, including how to coach others to achieve their own breakthroughs.  Good stuff.

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